19 July, 2009

Of Mangoes, Generation Gap and a Break

It has been a really long time since I wrote here. I guess it was a part of the break that I was so dying to take after the busy schedule that was there in the past few months. Thus staying away from the internet and being at home was good in some sense.

But unfortunately, even in that break I was traveling quite a bit. I was in Delhi, Kolkata, at home, Pune, at other relatives places, and meeting some old and some new friends. In all case it was a welcome break. Though in hindsight it turns out to be only a break from the internet. The break by no means meant that I was sleeping and taking rest. There was always something or the other that was happening. The pleasant part was that I was taking care of things that mattered most. Like spending time with my grandparents, visiting my native village, and most importantly visiting the schools that are a part of the Pick Me, Click Me, Educate Me project, and now an integral part of my life. The joys on the children's faces on seeing me is something that makes me want to go back there again.

During this period I also attended two marriages, for which I also did the photography. Both were unique in their own way and I had fun in both of them. In the process, met new people, and made newer friends. .

My dad's garden (I still like to call it his garden, as its all due to his efforts that the trees are bearing fruit today) has mango, litchee, guava, pomegranate, papaya trees in it. The best part of the break was that I was in the season when the mango trees were laden with fruit. Mango happens to be my favorite fruit. And when the fruit is from a tree in your own garden, so much so that you pluck it afresh and have it, the taste is better a few hundred times! Thus a day used to be incomplete if there was no mango served in either of the meals. My knowledge on mangoes increased during this period and I am now able to identify the variety just by looking and smelling them.

Now that I am done with my masters, the next institution that I will register in is going to be marriage. Although there is ample time for that. Thank god for the crazy things I am doing, or have thought of doing over the next few months / years, the degree of uncertainty has risen. Coming to which, I should let you know that my design consultancy will be soon registered and that will be another dream being fulfilled. Oh I so love the power of dreams! So Marriage is another year and half away if not more. However if one has to go by the words of people back home, they could have had it done in the next few months! Maybe I escaped this time. One of the reasons why I did not visit too many local people whom I used to meet earlier, was this fear of being asked this question.

It is in this concept of the arranged marriages, that I feel the generation gap the most. Parents I feel should understand that times have changed. They also have to understand that their kids are not in the same location, setting, and environment that they are in. The least they can do is to understand things from a logical point of view and think without the notion of the society and their pressure. Whenever there is an absence of logic and the acceptance of the norms which are improper in the child's understanding, there is bound to be tension. Things go from bad to worse. However, there is the hope that things will change.

The other day a friend (and a senior at college) suggested that I blog / write about my life. This he mentioned after reading a short biography about me and the things that I have done and am doing. While I know this was in relation with the child education project mainly, but there are other things too that I think would be worth sharing. The decisions that I have been taking, the things I have been investing my time in, happens to motivate a lot of people. This blog therefore will be more personal now, and reflections on the journeys that I take. Its all about the learnings that happens everyday, from everywhere.

Will be more regular now. (Hopefully).


lightworker said...

welcome back to the world of internet connectivity.

seems like you had a break filled with mixed blessings....sour and sweet like my fav aam papad :))..like life itself.

hmmm..marriage...also such a mixed blessing...we have had a chat on that :)..what i have to add though is...that you understand the power of dreams...dream that you are married to the one you think is perfect for you. even if it is some one who is not your parents ideal girl. if your love is mutual...she will love and respect your parents and the bond you share with them. your parents too - if you dream really good and strong :) will accept her..initially may be reluctantly..but they will ..once they see you happy and themselves and their traditions respected...

sounds like a fantasy??...try it...after all you have you dream big no :))

i know and have exprienced, if your intentions are good, you do good...and are focussed and clear about what you want...wildest dreams come true ...

congrats on the almost registeration.....isn't that proof that dreams come true...just don't give in to thinking about why things can not be possible...see your goal and go...

all the best !!

Iya said...

I wish I could take a break from internet. Seriously all this information that is thrown at us mere mortals on an avg day is growing exponentially. Just take the example of FB. All those status messags and stuff.. Anyhoos

Marriage - I have no idea what it means. all I know is if you are honest and your relation is based on truth and respect, then no wind can break it. Not only marriage, any relation - if based on Honest and true intentions can never go wrong.

Badhaiyan on the registration. Now I can say , I know this brave one who went to India right after his MS, unlike us losers, opened an NGO and is now running a start up.. (Waise marriage should not be an issue with this profile ! :P Main kuch rishtey bhejoon kya ;))

Good luck Kshitiz ! May you fulfil your dreams

I am said...

I am happy to know the new direction you have chosen to take this blog :)

And Welcome back...

Kshitiz Anand said...

Thanks Jyoti.
Yes.. I will try it.. The thing is that often I know these things.. but just when it comes to the actual application part.. I fear something.. that fear needs to go. It will.

Bhejo Bhejo :D
Thanks for the wishes!

Thanks Tanu! :)

Rhapsody said...

arrey wah! registration ho gaya? :) Mubarak ho!!!

Looking forward to read about some interesting experiences and hope to learn something from them :)

May all your dreams come true. God bless :)